Must I always be playing your fool?

September 21, 2007 in broken heart, celibacy, life, love, men, relationships, thoughts, wacky, women

We aren’t always lucky in love. In fact, some people encounter once (or more) a situation where they made a complete fool of themselves because they fell in love with a person that just played games with their heart. It goes from the classic example of the mistress whose lover promised he would sooner or later leave his wife, but never did, to the woman who just got dumped when she learned she was pregnant for her best friend (yep). I don’t say it’s a problem specific to women. Men too can get fooled. But since I have many examples on the female side, I will continue on a woman’s perspective.

“I spent seven years with a guy who just hid the fact he was gay. I discovered everything one day because I went to a gay club with my friends and I saw him there holding and kissing another guy” explained S., 34.

“Just hours after his wife got out of the maternity with their newborn, he called me to ask if I was available. He had been ignoring me during the whole pregnancy of his wife, and all of a sudden, he reminded about me. He told me he was going to be deprived from sex during the next 6 months because women always privilege their newborn over their man when they just give birth” says A., 32.

“When we met for the first time, he was absolutely charming. I thought I had found the one, until one day, his wife was waiting for me in the parking lot of my office and threatened to kill me” K., 35.

“He just came knocking on my door late in the evening just to have sex, but never stayed after the act. I thought he had a problem with intimacy, so I just accepted this situation. One day, I received a letter from him telling me he was going to marry the woman of his life (not me) and that he couldn’t be happier” S., 29.

“We met through a dating site, but six months after we got together, one of my friends told me she discovered a guy with a very similar profile to my man, and it turned out it was him” L., 40.

“He destroyed my wedding by showing at the ceremony and got me annulled my marriage. Three months later, he dumped me for another of his exes” G., 37.

“He was chasing me during a whole year. When I eventually yielded to his advances, he told me he needed time to think about “us” and just disappeared into nature”H.,34.

“I just introduced him to my parents on Christmas Day, and became all of a sudden an ass with me. He just called me by another name when we made love, yell at me all the time in public. Finally, he dumped me”J., 30.

“He refused to meet my friends, but imposed his mates all the time at home. I was feeling just like a cleaning lady trapped in his house. I couldn’t go out without telling him where I was going, but he never told me where he was going and was mad at me if I dared to ask him. It turned out he had a turnover of three other mistresses he was seeing alternatively” T., 34.

“He spent his life hanging on his cell phone sending SMS to his “boss” and got mad at me because I asked him to care a little bit about me. I discovered everything when I heard a woman I knew discussing with her girlfriend about this married man who sent her all the time SMS while his stupid wife was too busy taking care of their young child, called Emily. My daughter is called Emily” Y., 34.

“He refused to recognise our child, saying he wasn’t his. But I was faithful to him, while he cheated on me numerous times”  M., 42.

This list can be never ending. Generally, after such a dramatic experience, you tend to be more suspicious with your next partner(s). But some people keep on repeating the same mistake again, for a reason.

Have you ever played a fool like that? Personally, I have. You have read recently the last time I played the fool for someone else, even though I feel nothing in particular for this guy. Even in friendships, you can get fooled.