I don’t know why, but right now, I feel the need to read again the Silence of the Lambs and Hannibal. In those two books, Thomas Harris described the beginning of a strange relationship between the serial killer, Hannibal Lecter, and the young Clarice Starling.
Maybe this is because a few weeks ago, one of my friends told me about her strange love life, with a man she has no common point with, except this. “I can read his mind like an open book. And he can anticipate my feelings before I even open my mouth. It’s really curious” she said. Apart from that, they’re very different, she thinks. She comes from a modest background, while he was raised in the upper social class. They don’t share the same taste at all for music, books, art, … But I guess this is only because they weren’t raised in the same social conditions. She’s intelligent, brilliant, and so is he. That is the common point that bounds them together.
Does it really matter to have the same taste when you’re just on the same wavelength? My friend told me that when she met him for the first time, they had a bit of conversation about a common topic, and they shrugged and came to the same conclusion at the same time that both surprised them. Shortly after, they began dating.
Many years ago, I met this woman who told me she knew her man was the one because of this.”We were in the same College and followed the same science course. During one class, I had a hard time concentrating on the lesson, and I began drawing an elephant on my notebook. At the end of the lesson, I just passed by him, and I noticed he had drawn the exact same elephant on a piece of paper. I accidentally dropped my notes at his feet, and he helped me collecting all my stuffs. He also saw that drawing, and this made us laugh. I don’t know why, but at that moment, I knew we were meant to be together” she said. And so far, they’re still together, for what I know.
There’s a series of coincidences that makes us choose our partner, in some cases. Does it ever happen like that for you?
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October 31, 2008 at 12:43 am
Either the answer is ‘no’ or I am stifling anything that might have happened because it didn’t work out.
Glad to see you blogging again.
October 31, 2008 at 8:53 am
I think it did happened to me but i never thought about it like that.
October 31, 2008 at 5:51 pm
some people don’t believe in coincidence… and so when serendipity strikes a common point, it becomes a powerful attraction for some people.
you ask the question: “Does it really matter to have the same taste when you’re just on the same wavelength?” i have to say that it really doesn’t matter.
i have noticed in my life that there are many people with different tastes in music, literature, the arts, etc. but we share the same values and judgments. and because we share something so fundamental, i find it much easier to explore their tastes because i don’t think it would be such a waste of time when my friends or loved ones find those particular pursuits to be beneficial or enjoyable.
and it has opened new worlds to me that i never would have discovered otherwise.
you also find people in your life with the same values and judgments who also share your same tastes. and i feel that much closer to them…
October 31, 2008 at 5:57 pm
heck, that’s the main reason why i read the unbearable lightness of being when you suggested it! and i am glad i did…
thanks!
November 2, 2008 at 8:15 pm
Cricket, I try my best. Thank you!
Hi Arlene, now, you know!
Ellis, it’s easier to feel closer to people who share the same values AND the same tastes. But I don’t believe you can have it both. I’m glad you like that book.