When the teeth of life bite us, we have two options: to give up and die, or fight back.
I recently went to lunch with two very different men, who shared the same experience. Both were let go three years ago from their job. But they took a very different path afterward.
The first one decided to sue his former employee, because he was fired for a fallacious reason. He decided to come back to journalism, as a free lance. At the beginning, our newsroom was his sole source of revenue, but he quickly gained new contracts as his name began to circulate among other newsrooms, thanks to his first articles in ours.
He told me recently he was very anxious when he started with us. Because it was a new start, and he knew he didn’t have many chances to make it through. But now, he’s succeeding. And he even found an agreement with his former company, who accepted to write him a big check if he accepted to drop his charges against them.
He recently got married, and his wife is about to give birth to their first child (it’s a girl).
The second man chose a different way. But he had no financial worries, as he owns two buildings which give him steady rent revenues. He also collects money from the state, because he lost his job. And with that money, he started to study again, but recently quit his studies and stopped his unemployment benefits.
He has also traveled a lot, and scored as much as he could with all the women he met during his trips. He told me he has a girlfriend now, who’s almost 20 years younger than him. But she doesn’t live in the same country and they barely see each other. He wasn’t even able to tell the color of her eyes.
He recently told me he wished he had a job again. But he’s not really making any effort to get one.
So, if you had to choose one of these two man, who would you follow?
Winning is more appealing, isn’t it?
But this is also the rule for attraction. The first man will attract a confident woman who’s looking for love. The second one will attract a woman who will try to change him. Or a spineless wimp.