Trust, a delicate feeling

For me, trust constitutes an important part of a relationship. If you don’t trust your man, chances are your relationship wouldn’t last. But it is hard to trust a man, and it is easy to reverse that situation. If he cheats on you, then you’ll feel betrayed and it will be hard for you to trust him again. Some women can forgive their man and start things over with him . But some other simply just can’t do that. It depends on the situation.

• What if you discover he’s been cheating on you for several years, with many women (or the same woman) ? Will you forgive him ? I’m not sure…
• What if he told you he was drunk, it was just a one-night fling  ? In this case, if he ‘s sincere, chances are you will forgive him.  If he’s a pathetic liar, that’s another story.
• What if he told you nothing about it, and you discover everything thanks to “a friend” ?

Personally, if he cheats, I don’t want to know. I couldn’t trust him anymore if I knew anything about it.

Romance at the office

In the country where I live, it is generally forbidden for couples to work for the same unit or under the orders of each other. But this applies mostly for big companies, where it is easy to replace people in an another unit. For small companies, it is a problem.

Amanda, 34, works in the same company as her man. Her company only counts 50 employees, so they see each other all of the time. There has been a reorganization recently in her unit, and her man has become her boss. A very unpleasant situation for her.  And I can understand that.

Personally, I could never work in the same company as my man.  How horrible it would be to have to stand him as my boss ? Of course, it depends on your character.  But I think this situation could threaten your couple.

It is already difficult to maintain a stable relationship with your man, because you have to deal with your work, your friends, your family, …. If you add to that this particular situation, it can create a stress. 

We all know how we treat our colleague and our boss.  It is sometimes a love-hate relationship (mostly hate, especially in the case of your boss), sometimes a who cares relationship.  Generally, we can’t help criticize them all the time (some says gossips strengthen the team). Imagine now your man in the place of your boss, or your colleague.  Could you avoid criticize him as your boss or your colleague ?

The most curious place to find your man

I met the man of my life through the intermediary of my friends. Nine years ago, one of my friend organized a party, and he invited many people among which I found my man. That’s a pretty common place to find love.

But there are also less common place to find love. Here’s some examples:

• The cemetery. Yep, that sounds creepy. Hanna, 32, found the man of her life in the most unusual place to fall in love, because it is associated with death.  She was accompanying one of her friend who went changing the flowers on her father’s grave, when she noticed one of the maintenance guys who was extremely good looking. She immediately fell in love with him, and so on…
• The elevator. Sally works in a big company and barely know one tenth of the employees. Once, she got stuck in the elevator with a male employee during two long hours (the firemen were extremely busy on  that day, so that problem came down the list of priorities). They haven’t noticed each other until that moment. But, to spend the time, they started to talk, and discovered they had many common points.  Both of them were single, so they decided to date.
• The psychologist. If there’s one place to avoid falling in love, this would be the place. Remember the episode of Sex and the City where Carrie Bradshaw fell for the character played by Jon bon Jovi, when she went to see a therapist.  But it depends on the cases. Phyllis  went to see a therapist because she was undergoing a nasty divorce and it affected her deeply. She met there another patient, who was trying to cope with the death of his wife.  They didn’t immediately click, but started dating when their therapy was over. They are still together now…
• The mortuary. It ranges in the same category as the cemetery. Love surges sometimes in curious place. Celine got lost in the hospital where her aunt was staying, and ended up in the mortuary. There, she found a male nurse who was also lost (he was debuting in this hospital) and they instantly clicked.
• The car. One of my female friends was  once driving in her car and was way over the speed limit. She got arrested by a police officer, but instead of leaving with a report, she got a date with him.

The list doesn’t arrest here, of course. I’m sure I forget some situations.

How do we know he’s the one ?

We all look for our soul mate. But how can we tell we  have found the one ? That’s a tricky question. Many people say that you just simply know when you meet the right person, that there’s a click. Amanda met her soul mate twelve years ago and she explained she knew instantly he was the one the first time she saw him.

There’s also a trick: your feelings has to be mutual. What if you realize you’ve met your soul mate, but he doesn’t feel the same way about you ?  Nicky, 29, met two months ago, in a convention for her job, a man she thought her soul mate. She barely spoke to him, but she has the feeling he’s the one. The problem is he’s not interested in her at all. And also, chances are thin they will meet again. Since the convention, she’s been thinking about him all the time and feeling blue.

Maybe her supposed soul mate isn’t the right one ?

This goes out to the one I love

Katie Melua – Nine Million Bicycles

To my Mr. Wow: thank you for making me laugh everyday, for making me feel alive and for being there for me. I love you.

To the readers of this blog: Merry Christmas & Best wishes

The walls we build between us

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Gosh, I love this video. It reminds me the case of one of my friend, who dated  a computer geek during two years. She got bored with him because he was totally scotched to his computer, and he never took care of her.  He was also a player of World of Warcraft, the game one of my friend called the destructor of couples because all the couples where the man played that game end by a divorce or a breakup.

 I asked my friend why she bothered to stay so long with a guy who seemed to ignore her all the time.  She replied that at first, he was nice to her, but got hitched by the game.  And also, she got a lot of time for herself because he was playing with his computer.  That is a curious way to keep the flame of love burning, isn’t it ?

Why are we building walls like that between us ? Is it because we get bored of each other ? Should’nt we try to get more close to our partner ?

What’s your worst date ever ?

Weird date

Everyone has been to a date we want to forget quickly because it was so bad. When I was younger, I accepted a blind date with a guy I’ve never heard of,  but who was friend with someone I know. So, the D Day, we were supposed to meet in a pub. But since we didn’t have any clue of what would the other look like, we gave each other some informations about our exterior appearance. He told me he had a purple car, wore tight jeans and curious shoes called Buffalos. At that time, it was the kind of shoes very popular with girls (but with boys …WTF ?). But at that time, I was still young and innocent, and I thought you could never judge a book by its cover, so I decided to go to the date.  Wrong choice….  Of course, I was not disappointed at all when I saw him arriving at the pub. Physically, he wasn’t that bad. But when he started to talk, I just wished I would be somewhere else. He was talking all the time about partying, booze, pills, and the girls he scored. Luckily for me, one of my friend arrived in the pub, and I urged him to join us. So I completely ruined his date.