Among men who are afraid to commit, there’s a type who ‘s allergic to the words “I love you”. Generally, they refuse also to show any demonstration of that precious feeling. They will refuse to hold your hand when you walk together. They treat you like a good fuck buddy.
Sometimes, the guy is just honest with you and tell you straight away he doesn’t want to get involved in a serious relationship. That’s what happened to A., 31. She met two years ago a very charming man in a bar and started dating him. He told her he doesn’t believe that love can last forever and just wanted to spend some good time with her. A. accepted the deal, but inside of her, she secretly hoped he will change his mind with her. Once, she told him how much he meant to her and that she loved him. But she saw his face changing, getting dark at the moment she said those words. “Sweetie, you know what’s between us, so don’t spoil everything” he replied to her. She tried again weeks later, but this time, he told her that it was over. At least, A. was warned from the beginning.
Sometimes, the guy changes his mind, but in the wrong way. V., 27, started dating a man she met during a meeting, and told me that she was living a fairy tale with him the first months of their relationship. He would bring her flowers, send her sweet SMS, and treated her like a princess. But she noticed he would never said to her that he loved her. Like A., she told him once that she loved him. And all of a sudden, he started to change his attitude towards her. He began to treat her just like a fuck friend, and V. accepted this situation because she has fallen madly in love with him. Of course, it was no way she could tell him again those three forbidden words. One day, she received an SMS from him saying that he cheated on her, and that he would never have done this if he really loves her. He wanted also to leave her. V. was devastated when her relationship with him ended.
It’s funny to see how just three words can make a guy run away. At least, if you’re involved in a relationship like that but you couldn’t care less about the guy, you know what you can say to him to make him leave you alone.