Is it easy to date and to live with a geek ? Not really. According to many women I know, the geek seems to like his computer better than his woman.
But first, what is a geek ? According to Wikipedia, there’s no definite meaning about it. I would define a geek like a person, generally a man, fascinated by his computer, intelligent (far beyond the average) but therefore asocial.
Living with a geek is quite challenging for a woman. It can be boring too. C., 34, used to live during three years with a man like that. She left him for someone else because she was tired of waiting for him. “He was constantly playing with his computer. I felt neglected. The first thing he did when he woke up was turning on his computer, and the last thing he did before sleeping, at 3 or 4 am, was to turn off his computer. We didn’t share a common life” she explained. C. realized her geek wasn’t the right guy for her after a tragic episode. Shortly before the end of their relationship, her mother passed away. “And when I was mourning my mom’s death, he asked me if I could welcome one of his friend, who just got dumped and was sad, to cheer him up. I thought I was in a nightmare” she said.
These guys are sometimes too busy with their computer(s) to figure out what’s going on in their entourage’s life. That’s what happened to B., a 35 year-old IT specialist. He spend every night playing at World of Warcraft ( a very addicting game, according to several people) while her wife was surfing on the other computer of the house. She told him she registered to Meetic to chat with other net surfers. One day, one guy from that website proposed her to meet him, and she accepted. She left B. straight away after meeting the guy to live a romance with him. And B., to comfort himself, played even more to World of Warcraft.
But some women enjoy the geek ‘s company. “When I met J., I knew it wouldn’t be easy to live with him, but we tried. I insisted that he follow certain rules with me. He cannot play on his computer past 8 PM and has to reserve a day in the week-end to spend on various activities with me” H., a 34 year-old teacher explained. “So far, it has worked well. And a least, I know where he is and I don’t need to fetch him at bars, drunk, like some women have to” she added.
So, is the geek a good partner ? It depends on how geek he is…
*or their playstation.