Among the stupid things a woman can wish about his ex, there’s their impression. I know this sounds a little bit narcissistic, but hey, who doesn’t like leaving a good impression in her/his ex’s memory when it’s over ?
Frankly, I wouldn’t want to bump into one of my ex and to have him running away at the simple view of myself. I wouldn’t want him to forget completely about my existence. OK, if our relationship was short and over for more than ten years, I wouldn’t be disappointed, since I hardly remembered the guys I was dating at that time. But if our relationship lasted quite for a long time, I would be offended if he doesn’t have a clue about me. One of my friend, who works for the human resources department of her company, told me that she had to interview once one of her ex. She was so nervous before that interview because things didn’t end up well with him and she hadn’t seen him since the split. On the D-Day, he arrived, sit in front of her and acted like he had never seen her before. My friend, at the end of the interview, tried to evoke some events that occurred during their relationship to make him react, but he had no reaction. She told me she felt humiliated.
For your ego, that kind of memory is a good thing. What’s even better is when your ex puts you in a special place among the rest of his conquests. Of course, it depends on a crucial factor: the place you accord to your ex in your memory. If you couldn’t care less about the guy, then it won’t matter that much. But if you care about him, then it does matter a lot. G., 32, told me she stayed friend with one of her ex who is really special to her. She appreciated, when she met him, that he treated her like the 8th wonder of the world . He also confessed to her once that she was really special to him too.
There’s however a thin line between having that special place in your ex’s memory and falling in love again with him/her. Personally, I don’t care if I have a special place in my ex’s memory. As long as he doesn’t forget about me, I’m happy.