I know how hard it is to be single nowadays while everything seems to work by two, and for those who are single, the constant pressure of their entourage to find someone. Some persons like to be single, though. They can sleep with whoever they want, they can live their lives like they want. It may sound selfish, but hey, it’s their choice. So why their friends/ family feel guilty for them to be single? That ‘s a tough question.
F.,42, is still a bachelor and doesn’t want to change a thing in his life. “I’ve tried living with a woman during three years, but I realized this wasn’t for me” he explained. “But my sisters and my mother are desperate for me, and they’ve tried to hook me with numerous women they know. But so far, it has never worked” he explained.
Besides, sometimes, our friends and family think they know what’s best for us, and they try to hook us with someone we would have never picked ourselves. R., 34, told me her friends arranged for her a rendez-vous with a guy, they insisted,” absolutely charming, with tons of common points with you”. R. is a scientist and her blind date was one too. But all she feared was to meet an alive encyclopedia. And that was what her blind date was. “He kept on talking about what he read there and there and asked me about things in my job that were absolutely boring. It was the most boring date I ‘ve ever done” she said. ” And also, it made me wonder about a thing: am I so nerdy in my friends’ eyes? Is this the way they see me? “she added.
I suspect some friends to pick just the single guy in their entourage for their single friend , without analyzing if they really make a good match. T., 31, went once to a blind date organized by her friends. “The guy was really nice, charming, all you wish in a man, but unfortunately, he admitted at the end of the date he was in love with one of my friend, and he hoped to get closer to her by going on a date with me, WTF?” she said.
On the other hand, sometimes, these kind of dates really work. T. ,29, told me she met the man of her life “in one of those silly dates your entourage arranges for you”. “The point was I didn’t go on a date just with him, but with all my friends too. They just put me at the end of the table with him and they kept on throwing topics that we could discuss. At the end of the evening, I wanted to see him again, because I realized we had so much in common” she said.”I didn’t expect to meet him. My friends didn’t tell me they invited him. They secretly arranged the date” she added.
If you had a good experience with this kind of date, feel free to leave a comment. And if you had a bad experience, express yourself too.