While I see more an more women gaining their independence, I also see many men going the opposite direction. An increasing number of men still live with their parents. In some european countries like Spain and Italy (even in France), this phenomenon finds its explanation in the prohibitive costs to rent an apartment (I don’t even mention buying a house). In Italy, there ‘s also another explanation in the low salary hitting the young people. The average wage in the country is around 1000 euros a month, not much compared to the high prices of the everyday life there.
That complicates a lot the relationships between young people in those countries because sometimes, they have to move in one of the parent’s house for the simplest reason they can’t afford to pay for an apartment.
But in my country, it’s not the same story. Maybe we’ll get there someday because of the growing prices of the housing market. But we’re not yet there. So, the guys who still live with their parents have pretty much no excuses for it. If he works for a decent salary, he wouldn’t have too much problem to pay a rent for an apartment.
Despite all this, I know quite a few men who still live with their parents. And generally, when you meet the guy for the first time, you can tell where he lives. The men I know in that category are mostly shy, would never dare to throw an opposite argument to what you say, quite intelligent and cultivated, but not the guy you would notice in a party. Usually, they’re still young, around their 30’s. Their situation is not forever, though. Because sometimes, a charitable heart fell in love with one of them and pushes him to leave his parents’ cocoon.
But sometimes, this kind of guy never finds his charitable heart, and stays at home with mom and dad. I have a very unique colleague in my office in this situation. He lived with his mom until very recently, and he’s 42. He had been married once, but his marriage lasted only for two weeks (his wife left him because she had enough of him – Wow that’s a quick decision) . So he returned to his mommy’s home and stayed there for a long time. What made him leave his mom ? He fell in love with a psychologist, who has already two kids. So she wouldn’t mind taking care of another one.
The question is: would you date a guy like that? Personally, I couldn’t.