One of my single friends collects disastrous dates, as she said. Her problem is that she always finds something wrong in her partner. For example, she spent the evening with an absolutely charming guy. “He was quite handsome, wasn’t too boring, has a little sense of humor, but I wasn’t absolutely seduced by him. I didn’t see it at first, but at the end of the dinner, when he lifted his sleeves, I could notice a huge golden gourmette. It was clear that it was a no-no for me” she explained.
She’s not that shallow though. She once told me she found the perfect man and that everything was perfect with him, until she met his friends. ” They were all idiots. I wondered why they were hanging out with him, who seemed to be the exact opposite of them” she said. She couldn’t stand his friends anymore and asked him to choose between them and she. He chose his friends…
She also fell in love with a guy who was sent abroad for his work just three months after they met. Unfortunately for her, her ex fell in love with his new boss when he moved in his new country. They got married six months later.
Her bad list doesn’t stop here. She also dated a married man but ignored it until his wife came and told her about it.
My friend isn’t the only one hit by bad luck when it comes to dates. But sometimes, I wonder if it’s really bad luck or if she’s just too picky about men. I know she has a precise idea of what she wants in a man, but unfortunately for her, reality has never given her what she wants so far.
L., 35, got married last year, eventually. She has been picky with men too, but she finally found her “prince charming”. ” He’s not exactly what I dreamt about, but he has certain qualities I definitely appreciate. And after all, those are what matters the most to me” she said.
I know relationship is always a question of (sometimes many) compromises. But are there things in your potential partner that can really make you run away ?