When you ask Casanovas/ ladykillers how they can score so much women, some of them are quite honest with you (they think you’re a little lamb and that you don’t want nothing wrong from them). The answers can sometimes be quite surprising, especially when you take a glance at the Casanova, and realized he’s far from this.
But rather looks like this.
And when you scratch the surface a little bit, you will uncover this.
Yes, a predator. Wikipedia gives an interesting definition of the predator: “predation describes a biological interaction where a predator organism feeds on another living organism or organisms known as prey“. In the case of our ladykillers, they don’t kill (well, it depends) their preys. Their dynamic is based on this principle: they choose carefully their prey distinguished by characteristics like ugliness, lack of confidence, innocence, in other words, a weak personality.
That’s how M., 40, proceeds with his victims. ” I only choose ugly girls. I know I’m not an Apollo, so I will have zero chance with the other ladies. But with these women, it’s such a piece of cake” he said. “Because they’re ugly, they feel nobody would ever love them. Then I come as their prince charming, telling them how beautiful they are to my eyes and making them feeling so special. They are grateful I picked them” he added. M. isn’t married, and hasn’t the intention to do so. He prefers collecting ugly girls.
P. ,35, also follows the same principle, but dares to pick up beautiful ladies. “I studied psychology when I was in college, and I noticed that tons of beautiful girls in my class had a problem of self-depreciation/ abandonment. Some of them, who were afraid to be left, just executed everything you ask them. One of them wrote my thesis. They would do anything just to please you” he said. “But you have to be careful with them, because you never know how they will react when you tell them it’s over” he added.
T., 41, told me he chooses only stupid/naive girls. T. is physically more appealing than the other two Casanovas mentioned above, to be honest. “Believe or not, but there’s a lot of women who believe what I say and just fell in the trap. I just told them I do incredible stuffs in my life, like going around the world as an Indiana Jones, being wealthy, giving time for NGO,… ” he explained. “And to end up the relationships, I’ve got plenty of good excuses, like being sent abroad for a long mission” he added.
Some of these Casanovas are real professional when it comes to fool women. So, if you’re one of their victims, you shouldn’t feel guilty of falling into their trap.
Do you have experienced a relationship like that? Or, do you have a radar for predators? It also applies for men…