Life has sometimes funny ways on sneaking up on you. A friend of mine once explained to me her biggest problem with men was that she wasn’t able to make up her mind whether she likes him or not. As a result, the guy has already moved forward to another woman when she finally realized she felt something for him. “I met this guy in a friends’ party and we were the last to leave the building. We chatted a bit and he insisted to get my phone numbers, but I refused. Three days later, I realized how handsome he was and that I might have passed the man of my life because I was such a bitch with him. So I called my friends who organized the party and asked them his number. Unfortunately, they didn’t have it. So I decided to do a research by leaving him a message on a largely aired radio program. But he never called me back. Six months after our first meeting, I bumped into him in the street, but he was accompanied with another woman who was obviously not a friend nor his sister. I felt so disappointed and mad at myself” she said.
Another friend of mine also explained this phenomenon.”I only fall in love with a man when I’m losing him. There was this guy who was in love with me, but that I wasn’t interested until he decided to move to another country. I just tried to make him stay, but he left anyway” she said.
Is it because we feel we’re losing someone that this someone suddenly becomes attractive?