I was waiting in the queue for the checkout at the supermarket the other day, and before me, there was this dad with his little cute-as-button daughter. As he left with his numerous packages, the woman behind me and the cashier (a female too), started to sigh at the view of this daddy smiling to his daughter. “There’s nothing sexier than a man who takes care of his child” said the woman behind me. “Twenty years ago, you wouldn’t see this very often” replied the cashier. “Before, the woman had to take care of the children while the husband was earning his life, and if he had time, this wasn’t his priorities at all” she added.
The cashier made a point. Most of my friends told me about their childhood where they barely saw their father because he was too busy working, while their mum took care of the whole family. I was kind of an exception when I was a kid, with both parents working. My parents took care of my sister and I alternatively, whenever their schedule allowed it. Now, the situation has evolved because both members of the couples work (housewives are becoming more and more an exception). So, a scene like I saw at the supermarket isn’t rare anymore. At my office, more and more men are taking a part-time schedule to take care of their little children.
And I must admit there’s something sexy in a man able to look after his kid. This reminds me of an episode of Friends, where Joey used Ross’s son to seduce women. A good tactic, it seems… “I don’t know why, but knowing he’s a good father is comforting me. A man who hates children for me is a real macho, the one who will let you do all the household chores and doesn’t lift a finger at home, the one who will shout at you because you’re disturbing him when he’s talking on the phone with his mates or when he’s watching a football game on the TV” says a friend of mine.
I’ve met women who told me the ability for a man to look after a child is becoming more and more a criteria for pursuing or not a relationship. “I suffered a lot with my dad’s numerous absences when I was a kid, and I don’t want that for my child” explains T., 34. “I want children, and I want my man to be able to handle them, not just their procreator” M., 35. “I dumped my ex because he didn’t seem to like kids, and I thought he would make a horrible father” L., 32, said.
Of course, this aspect only works with women wishing to have children. R., 34, told me she couldn’t care less about this ability in a man, because she doesn’t want children.
Does a potential bad father turn you off? And for men reading this, will you be offended if a woman dumps you because you would make a terrible father?