On the celibacy market, which people have a better chance to score/ find the one? I had a conversation with one person I know (D., in fact) about this topic. And D. was convinced it was all about the look/appearance. I’m not convinced at all.
If you’re drop-dead gorgeous, you won’t have necessarily a better chance to find love. Either to get laid. One of my friends is a model, and she told me she didn’ t score so much lovers in her life, and even had difficulties to get approached by men in general. I still remember when I was in College this beautiful student who told me surprisingly she didn’t have that much success with men in general.
D. may be not so wrong however: our appearance plays a huge part in our love life, but it’s not the only element that comes in the equation. Self-confidence is the key, I think. When you go out clubbing, look after the women who attract the most of the male attentions. It’s never the most beautiful lady. Just the ones who feel good about themselves and glow on the outside. You can be beautiful, the most beautiful woman in the world, if you have zero self-confidence, you can be as attractive as a medusa to men.
Then, there’s the personality. Another key element. What’s the use of having a pretty face if there’s nothing in the brain? But here, it depends in which league you’re playing. If you’re dumb, blonde with big boobs, you will attract dumb guys obsessed with big tits or men looking for a woman easy to dominate/manipulate. That’s your main cruising field. If you have a terrific personality, even if you’re blonde with big boobs, this will open you many doors with men. But if you’re truly ugly, unfortunately, that doesn’t work.
That’s the irony of all this, if you’re too beautiful, but have zero personality and a lack of self-esteem, you have as much chances as an ugly woman with a great personality and a high self-confidence to score with men.
Now, for the male side of the story, back to D. He believes a man has no chance with women if he’s not fit and handsome. I don’t agree. If a man’s rich, no matter how ugly he is, he will always find women attracted by his
money charisma. Fit? Well, for some women, this aspect isn’t so important. As long as he’s not obese, that will do (and even if he’s obese too, after all). Guys with a physic like Jack Black have their chances with women, as long as they have personality. Handsome? Well, the taste in men varies a lot from one woman to another. A man can be handsome to the eyes of one woman and not to the eyes of another one. We have a lot of conversations with my girlfriends on this topic and what turns on one can turn off another. For example, bald men. Some of my friends just said it’s a turn off, but some others (and I) do find this really attractive. Don’t forget I have a little crush on a bald man 😉 Besides, remember that guys like this one below have scored more than 2000 women, yep. Celebrity helps of course, but not only. Aaww, Lemmy Kilmister ! (kidding, kidding) Look at him, isn’t he handsome, especially with that mole on his face?
So, do you agree with D. or do you agree with me on this?