For some couples, living together is quite challenging. A friend of mine has been for 10 years with her man without sharing the same roof. She simply refuses to live with him, after a disastrous experience when they were students and roommates back then. “We tried to live together during our studies, but it didn’t work. He was so untidy it was like a living nightmare to share the apartment together” she said.
She’s not the only one to refuse to live with her partner. C., 35, lives separately from her husband because she’s convinced that “the routine is the worst enemy of your couple, and this comes with the cohabitation with your partner”.
Some people accept to live with the object of their affection, but go through many difficulties with the cohabitation. Before we moved in our new house, the light of my life and I, the previous landlords had a big fight that ended in a divorce. Our neighbours explained to us she didn’t like at all living in the countryside and left him just three months after moving in the house. She was also pregnant with their second child.
When I was a student, there was a couple down my building that just started living together, and they just fought all the time about everything. She complained she had to do all the household chores while he was mad at her because she kept on sorting his stuffs and he couldn’t find them anymore.
For the young couples, it’s hard to leave the comfort of their parents ‘ house to live together. It can be quite challenging, and that’s why my friend refuses to give her couple another try. But for older couples, sometimes, it’s the long celibacy period before moving together that causes a problem. Sometimes, it’s just complete opposite characters that explains it all. If you’re maniac while he’s not, if you’re a couch potato while he’s very athletic, if you don’t like to go out while he can’t stand being stuck inside the house,… “I had enough of him because he spent his time at home doing nothing while I was working hard. And the only words he had for me when I got back home was a question about the time we would eat”K., 32, said. “He thought I was his cleaning lady” J., 34, explained.
It’s curious how the tensions caused by a cohabitation can lead to a break-up. I knew this couple who was truly in love with each other but waited to be married to live together. Six months after the wedding, they decided to call it quits because they couldn’t stand each other.
But when you fall in love with someone, nothing can tell you in advance how your cohabitation would be. Nothing? Well, there can be exceptions. For example, when you work in the same office than your partner/ love interest, you can tell he/she’s untidy or not by looking at his desk. If he’s been named the most untidy person of your office, chances are his house/ apartment would be a mess too.
But still, you could be surprised when you decide to live together.
Have you ever break up because you couldn’t live with your partner?