When I assisted to the Sex Toy party organized in my friend’s house, some of the women there were single and shrugged their shoulders very often when the animator exposed to us some sex toys usually used by couples and also the scents supposed to drive the opposite sex crazy. My friend told me afterwards how astonished she was to see there were so many single women around her, while single men were more or less an exception. The truth is there are really more single women than men, at least in Europe. In France alone, among the 8 millions bachelors and bachelorettes counted, over 4 millions are women and only 3 millions are men. This would mean that bachelors are privileged, and have plenty of opportunities to choose from, while spinsters would better not be too difficult.
And when you see the offer of bachelors for the spinsters out there, you’d better not be too picky. “Look at the spinsters out there, some of them are really beautiful, educated, smart and funny, and yet, they are single. On the other hand, the bachelors I know are single for a good reason: you have to be desperate to pick one of them”said my friend.
I don’t totally agree with her. It’s true that when you’re over 25 year old and single, you become an exception. Three people out of four are committed in a relationship passed that age. And when you ask the single people over that age why they are still single, you’ll get two answers: a) I haven’t met the one yet b) I don’t want to commit in a relationship. Maybe three, if you take into account the “better off alone” category. Among this last one, this is where you can find specimen like these.
The one who’s in open conflict with anything associated with personal hygiene.
Then, the one who’s not bad at all but just hooked to his computer.
If you eliminate these specimen on the celibacy market, it will leave you with the “afraid of commitment” bachelor and the one who still hasn’t found what he’s looking for. If you eliminate again the “afraid of commitment” and the gays, the possibilities shrink even more. Especially if you know that in the “still haven’t found” category, you can find real douche bags like D.
Another friend of mine, who’s single, always complains that “All the good ones are taken or gay”. It may sound desperate, but given the disproportion between bachelors and spinsters, this is not good news for the spinsters. If we’re cynical, we could say that since one marriage out of two (or three) ends up in a divorce, there will be plenty of new men on the market soon.
But in the light of this, you could understand why it is so difficult for spinsters over 25 to find a man. And also why men move on more quickly than women after a break-up/divorce. I’ve met some women committed in a relationship who told me they think sometimes about leaving their man because the sparkle isn’t there anymore, but admit they fear they will never find another one after him, so they hang on their relationship.
So, here’s the question of the day: how do you cope with your celibacy?