“Women are so complicated. You try to say a compliment to her, and suddenly she’s mad at you because she didn’t take it the right way” said one of my male colleagues. Yes, some of us are complicated. But we’re like a genie in a bottle: we’ve got to be rubbed the right way. Besides, there’s compliment and compliment. I asked around me the worst kind of compliments (and not insults) they ever got from their partners. And it goes something like this.
“You are so beautiful when you’re dressed up” H., 35.
“If you were ugly, I wouldn’t be with you”K., 34.
“Anything that can be said to other women in general, like you’re so charming, you have beautiful eyes, I like your hair,…”T., 30.
“What I like about you, is that you’re difficult” L., 31.
“You’re pretty today”P., 35.
Sometimes, the compliment is taken the wrong way because of the context. Every woman has weight issues from time to time, and there will always be a day when she will ask you “Am I fat?”. But depending on our charachter, we will appreciate (or not) if you’re honest with us. “I don’t appreciate if he says yes to this important question” I., 30, said. “I never ask that question because I know the answer” M., 31, explained. “He just tells me that my butt is getting big, and that I need to exercise, which I hardly do” P.,29, said. This also applies with general self-esteem issues.
But don’t get us wrong, we love compliments, and besides, some of us don’t know how to react to them either.”I usually blush when I receive a compliment, and don’t know what to say, even if it’s my man who said that” J., 30, said. “I just don’t know how to say compliments, and I’m embarrassed when I receive one” R., 30.
Do you like to receive compliments?