Recently, a friend of mine came to seek an advice about an odd situation she has been experiencing. She’s a 30 year-old journalist like me, and once, she got invited for a professional dinner with a 44 year-old man quite known in our country, who’s married and has two children. This is where all started. “This dinner was really odd, because when I arrived there, he asked me a lot of questions about me. It’s unusual, you should know that, because I am the one who asks questions. The guy had obviously done a little bit of research about me, because he kept on complimenting me on my articles and talked a lot about the college I went. We found out we had a lot of common points, and I must say I didn’t expect the dinner to turn out so well. He made me laugh, he was absolutely charming” she told me.
“It wouldn’t have been a problem if it stopped there. But the days after the dinner, he gave me multiple phone calls for no other reason than work, including when he was abroad. I also receive a lot of emails from him, but nothing ambiguous. He’s acting a little bit irrational with me. He even asked me to be his friend on facebook. All my other professional contacts use LinkedIn, normally. This causes me a lot of problems, because a) I have to interview him frequently for my newspaper b) if my colleagues learn about this, gossips will immediately start in my newsroom, and I don’t like to be the center of the attention c) he’s married, for god sake. Besides, I have to interview him again in a couple of weeks, and I know I couldn’t stay just composed in front of him. Maybe I’m wrong about his intentions for me and that I make films in my head” she said.
I asked her what bothers her in that story the most, and curiously, she answered it was the inevitable gossips that such a connection would bring. “People know who he is, and they also know who I am. I have already experienced this before, to a lesser extent. Everyone knew my ex, each time I met new people, they would ask how he was, I had the impression to be transparent. I just want to have a man that won’t shadow me. It may sound selfish, but you’ll see, it’s extremely unpleasant. Besides, I couldn’t stand gossips about me at work” she explained.
I told her to keep her distance with him, he will understand. He’s not stupid. As for his intention toward her, maybe he’s having a midlife crisis?
I understand her need to remain anonymous when it comes to love. Too much publicity is never good for a relationship.
So, would you care if your partner was famous and do you mind about gossips about your relationship with him/her?