I always wonder if it’s written “easy prey” on my forehead or something like that. Usually, when people see me for the first time, they probably think I’m a) stupid b) naive c) stupid and naive. The truth is, I can’t be mean with the others, unless I have a good reason to do so. And some people just take my apparent kindness for stupidity, and they abuse it. Just recently, I’ve been manipulated by one of my professional contacts, who basically thought I was his press officer or something like that, and harassed me to write my articles in the way he was expecting it. I didn’t immediately see he was playing with my feet, and I let him put pressure on me. But now, he can go fuck himself.
Luckily for me, I haven’t got that bad luck in my relationships. Curiously, I’m more cautious about the partner I choose than the ones I just know. But most of the women I know don’t follow the same rule. N., 36, told me she can spot a profiteer right away, but when it comes to her love life, she gets fooled by her emotions all the time.”I had this lover who basically called me whenever his telly was broken, or this other guy who only wanted to see me on Mondays, just after his gym, between 8 and 10 pm, and this other would just called me whenever he felt alone. Another one just kept on borrowing money from me, and never paid me back. And of course, I had a married man who promised me he would divorce as soon as his wife, with whom he didn’t have sex anymore, would give birth to his second child” she said.
She’s not the only one. One of my friends is really tough with everyone, except her friends, but she just fools herself when she falls in love. She had also a long list of disastrous lovers, who just used her.
Then, there are the women who get fooled by everyone, because they can’t say no. One of my former colleagues was always snowed under work because her other colleagues asked her to do their task, while they were coasting at the coffee machine. Her kids were spoiled, because she can’t refuse anything to them. And her husband could go out with his mates whenever he wanted, lived on her earnings, and cheated on her while she was working. Luckily for her, she did manage to notice what was happening with her husband, but for the rest, everything is still going on.
So, who can fool you?