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Sleeping with the enemy

I read once an interview of Katherine Heigl, who said that since she’s married, sex has never been so good because you can let yourself totally go when you feel in safety. Maybe she’s right, but this doesn’t prevent some people to sleep with the person they truly hate.

One of my friends did sleep with a guy she hated because she was drunk and so was he at a party, and that’s how it happened. “We were in high school in the same class, and we couldn’t stand each other. I thought he was stupid and arrogant, he thought I was just meaningless. Years later, we met in a party, and as the evening went on, we got completely drunk. I can’t remember much things after the bar, but when I woke up in the morning and saw him laying on the bed next to me, completely naked as I was, I understood. I didn’t want to pursue a relationship with him after, and he didn’t want to either” she said.

My other friends think they won’t sleep with the people they don’t like or hate. But it depends. “If it’s just for sex and I fancy the guy nevertheless, then I would sleep with the guy I hate” one of my friends said. “It depends on how much I hate the person” another one said.

Alcohol can help you getting closer to the person you hate, but remember that hate and love are often linked with each other. Reasons why we hate each other are sometimes unjustified. I hate some people that have done me no harm (OK, one of them did try to ruin my career as a journalist and is a schizophrenic) and some people don’t like me even if they don’t know me personally. It’s just how we feel about the others.

Besides, sleeping with someone you hate means that you do trust him/her enough to let him/her touch you. Except of course, if you’re doing it for the money. In this case, some people will accept anything from anyone.

So, could you sleep with someone you truly hate?