Recently, one of my colleagues welcomed his third child, a little daughter, and he got a little bit worried about how she will evolved, stuck between her two eldest brothers, who are twins. Another colleague of mine told him that his sister also had the same problem, as she was the only female kid of the family. He said that my colleague’s little bundle of joy will turn inevitably into a tomboy, because his sister turned into one. I told him that at least, she will be prepared for living in a man’s world, and she will have no problem understanding how men react and think. This is a huge chance, I think.
One of my male friends has been raised in the opposite situation: he was the only male kid among the four children of the house. And he told me that growing up with three sisters helped him a lot understanding the opposite sex. “I learned that girls have different reactions, that they can be pissed against you for weeks even if they pretend the opposite, that they’re able to ruminate bad feelings, that they can seem fine with you even if you did something wrong, and then for no reason, weeks later, get mad at you and put down the list of the things you did wrong, including this one. I learned that they’re more emotional, but also have this ability to understand people better than we do” he said.
Yet, this situation can turn into a nightmare too. “I grew up as the only girl between my older brother, and my little one. We had neighbors we always spent our youth with, and they were also two boys. Basically, their favorite hobby was to find creative ways of persecuting me, and I had no choice but to avoid them and stayed locked in my room. I hated boys for that reason, and it took me a long psychoanalysis and a man who was only kindness to reconcile myself with the opposite sex. Now that I’m pregnant with twin daughters, I’m happy they won’t endure the same painful experience I went through when I was a child” L., 34, said. “I hated my brother and my father. My mom left us when I was only four, and I’ve never heard about her since then. They formed an alliance between them, and they had a strong bond. I felt completely ignored and left behind. This is probably why I’m a lesbian now” Y., 34, said.
Personally, I do think that we need to be close to the opposite sex to understand them better. I learned a lot about men from my male friends and my cousins. I couldn’t handle being the only female journalist in the sector in which I evolve ( a very macho one) if I didn’t have them in my life.
So, do you think you can learn from the opposite sex?