Getting dumped is a pill difficult to swallow for your pride. Especially if you get dumped for another person.
One of my friends recently went through this experience, and she told us how she felt disgusted by this. But at one point in the conversation, one of my other friends had this remark. “But she’s pretty. You should feel flattered”. We all looked at each other, without saying a word. And quickly changed to another topic.
Is it flattering to be left for someone prettier, smarter, fitter than you? Personally, I’m not convinced at all. How can this perspective comfort you? I asked around me about this.
“No. It’s not flattering at all. In fact, it just remind you that you’re not that pretty, that smart, that this and that, and this is why he left you for someone better than you”B., 30, said.
“I must admit it’s painful to get dumped for someone better than you. But on the other hand, if you get dumped for someone uglier, more stupid, or utterly disgusting, you begin to wonder if there ‘s something wrong with you too” Y., 34, said.
“It depends on how long lasted the relationship. If it’s a one -night stand, I could be flattered if he picked a woman as pretty as me. But if the bonds were deep, I couldn’t stand it”M., 35, said.
“Well, as long as this bitch treats him very badly, I’m perfectly fine with this” I., 29, said.
I guess our ability to cope with a breakup also depends on how we love ourselves.
So, would you be flattered if you were dumped for someone better than you?