When we fall in love, we expose ourselves to a complete change in our existence. I read once an interview of Helène Mercier, Bernard Arnault’s wife, where she said that she had to embrace a brand new world when she chose to marry one of the wealthiest men of the planet. This is especially true if both of you come from a very different world from each other. But not only. I do believe that when we fall in love with someone, we fall in love with the world he/she’s living in too. For instance, one of my coworkers married a soprano. He met her while she was singing at the opera. Of course, he’s a big fan of operas. I guess he wouldn’t have fallen in love with her if she wasn’t a soprano. He told me he was fascinated with her world. In Bernard Arnault’s case, the same dynamic would apply. He’s a big fan of the piano. His wife is one of the most talented pianists.
But when we fall in love with our lover’s world, we don’t necessarily embrace it as a whole. As Francesco Alberoni says, we create a new world that only belongs to us. A new dynamic. Because we don’t give up our own world. If it’s the case, we’re alienating ourselves. It’s not sane at all. Some would argue that falling in love is not sane at all, because it’s irrational. Yes, it is. But that doesn’t mean we have to give up our own personality. Sooner or later, our real nature will come back with a vengeance.
Besides, creating a new world together may need some adjustments at the beginning of the relationship. I can imagine Helène Mercier had to adapt to her husband’s world when she entered it. I read she has to wear LVMH brands when she’s on a show. (I wouldn’t mind at all, personally ). Plus, she had to meet all of her husband’s friends. And so did he with hers. Our world counts many aspects. It feeds through our personality, but it goes way beyond it. What we do defines it. What we wish defines it. Who we see define it,…
Have you ever thought about what’s defining your world?