When we fall in love, we fall in love with the person who holds the promise of changing our life. That change can be good, but it can also be bad. It’s amazing what we can do when we are bored. Recently, I was reading an article about baby escorts, aka Italian teenagers who sell their sexual services just like that, because they’re bored and they want to get noticed. Geez. Now, back to love. Recently, I had a bit of a chat with an old friend of mine, who just got dumped, three days before his marriage. Since then, he’s been miserable, and he only wish for her to come back into his life. Even if he knows she was such a bad influence on him. “I wasn’t myself anymore when I was with her. I was hypnotized. When we were together, we were like rebels against everything. We would do everything we wanted, we felt invincible. My friends didn’t recognize me anymore. They told me I became such a douche. They said it was her fault. She was just too wild to handle. Very unpredictive. But I love her to death. We were about to get married, when she decided we shouldn’t continue like that, that it wasn’t right. And disappeared. My heart exploded in thousand pieces when she told me that. I was totally numb afterwards. It took me days to realise she was gone for good. Since then, I don’t feel the same. I need her back. I don’t feel whole anymore” he said. And when I asked him if he lost himself in this relationship, he replied positively, but added that this relationship helped him to find himself back.
Such a bad influence can’t last for long. Why? Simply because it doesn’t sustain the burden of time. This only goes hand in hand with passion, and passion doesn’t last. In every relationship, passion fades away after three years, and we end up in the process of the maturity of love, which can also translate into a hard landing into reality. But those first months are so good, aren’t they?
What is a bad influence anyway? According to my friends, a person who has a bad influence on us is someone who tears us apart from where we belong. “If you fall in love with someone all of your friends hate, someone who’s dangerous for you, someone who doesn’t care about you” one of my friends said. “It’s someone you can’t trust”. “It’s someone who will make you suffer, you know it from the start”.
Of course. But this is also why women fall for the bad guy, the rocker, the rebel. Why douche writers like … can score with the opposite sex (and the same sex as well).
So, can you fall for someone who has a bad influence on you?