Very recently, I was watching a stupid TV program where a famous French actress said she wished she had an older lover than she. She explained she was in a relationship with a guy of the same age than she, and that it would be easier with an older lover (an old dude, as she refers it) “because there’s no need to seduce him“.
She had obviously drunk a little bit too much of champagne when she said that. Nevertheless, it’s curious how we can tell the truth in our drunken dialogues.
This makes me wonder: is it really easier with an older lover? I don’t think so. Physically, maybe. But it’s impossible to seduce all men only with our looks. If it’s the case, then, what kind of men? Certainly not someone who wants to build a long term relationship.
It depends if a woman only likes men who fancy her looks. I guess Pamela Anderson would fall into that category. But even Pamela Anderson doesn’t pick older dudes… And on the long run, these unions are not sustainable. Because as women get older, their capital of seduction quickly depletes. And they will be replaced by a younger version of them.
For the bonding part, this is even trickier. An older lover is simply older, and this implies his tastes, thoughts, … may be dramatically different than his lady love. He had also a lot more experience about life, and this includes sometimes a heavy love life.
Somehow, some couples do manage to pass all those hurdles. And when you’re 45 and date a 65 year old man, this isn’t exactly the same as a 18 year old chick who dates a 40 year old man.
I guess when you’re really in love, you manage to go through all these obstacles.
But I really don’t think it’s easier with an older lover.
What do you think?