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Message in a bottle

Very recently, one of my friends complained about her telephone bills. She had it for over 300 euros of communications just in a month. But she admitted she abused of text messaging. Last month, she sent over a thousand SMS, only to one of her contacts. The man she fancies. She told us she became addicted to those messages, and that her heart beats out every time the little ring of her cellphone indicates her she has a new one.  She met him at a party one week before this frenzy began. And she said it’s a great way to flirt with him and test him before taking their relationship to the next level.

Why don’t you call him and why doesn’t he call you?” asked one of my friends. “It’s because on the phone, I don’t know what to say, especially since I don’t know him very well. But texting him is easy and effortless” she replied.

The truth is, texting is quite useful in our very busy agenda. I always text my contacts before calling them. It’s a good way to know if they’re busy or not. But I’m not convinced it’s a good way to flirt. Of course, it can tell you if he/she’s interested in you if he/she doesn’t reply. But with texting, you miss the whole picture of flirting. It’s difficult to show any emotion in a written message, no matter how you write it. Words can be hard to decipher sometimes. Blanks in a phone conversation or a face to face have a certain charm. Seeing the other’s face getting red, changing, and hearing him stuttering indicates you a lot more than just a text. And usually, it’s more difficult to lie when you’re face to face.

Yet, it’s great to receive a message from your lover during your busy day. It’s just a way to sustain your love, among other things.

But a relationship purely based on texting is a mistake. Like we say in French, “Il faut de tout pour faire un monde“.

So, do you text a lot?


One thought on “Message in a bottle

  1. Ellis I. Lee says:

    i once watched a friend text a woman he liked to see if he could spend the night with her. they had been flirting for a long time, but they did not date because she moved away after finishing school. but now she was back in town…

    the texts my friend sent to her were laced with suggestive double entendres… she could take them to mean one thing or another. and for the hour or so they were texting back and forth, i was wondering why they just did not call each other and find out what the other wanted to do.

    to me it seemed more like a ritual… like an intricate mating dance. and every word and phrase would be analyzed and thought over to see if they contained any hidden meaning.

    maybe life is more fun and interesting when you have to guess at the game of love…

    i don’t text a lot, but there are a few people on my blackberry messenger that i text regularly. that is one reason it would be hard for me to switch to an iphone. it’s nice to know you can send someone a thought at any time without bothering them and that they will receive it in their own time.

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