When you apply to a competition, and end up second instead of first, this is disappointing. Of course, this place is better than finishing last of the competition. But yet, you regret you didn’t make it to the top.
When it comes to love, it’s not a competition. Yet, there are situations where we don’t like to finish second or last. Because there’s only one place we want to occupy: the place of our significant other’s heart. And it’s all or nothing. There is no in-between.
So, when the one you love suddenly tells you he just wants to be friend, or tells you he fell in love with someone else and that she might be the one, it’s difficult not to feel disappointed. This is how you end up with a broken heart.
This is exactly how I feel right now. The man I love asked me to be just his friend. Just his friend.
This is a pill bitter to swallow. And I know that it’s not possible to develop a genuine friendship with him. Not after what we went through. I would be too resentful and frustrated by this. And I know I couldn’t bear seeing him with another woman.
It’s simply not possible to switch from love to friendship just like that. It’s like being downgraded. And here, friendship is something like a small consolation.
One of my friends told me it’s simply impossible to be friends with the one you really love once it’s over.Because somewhere in your heart, it’s never over. And you will always wish he/she has a change of heart.
She’s been in love with the same man for eight years now. And she told me she tried everything to forget about him. But she simply can’t. She dated other men, cut all contacts with him several times, tried to make him jealous, tried to be just friend with him. But it never worked. “I simply can’t get him out of my mind. I think he’s the one” she said. But the one she loves is just simply too afraid to commit to her. Yet, he can’t let her go.
She said she can’t be just friend with him. That’s impossible.