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Good riddance

According to statistics, the weeks just before Christmas see most couples to break up. I had a very recent example of that. Three days before Christmas, one of my friends’ mother lost her mind and flew away the country. My friend was left with her father and her two sisters organizing their Christmas dinner, which was nothing but sadness as she told me.  Her mom came back two days ago, and she asked for a divorce.

As the year ends, people often ponder about what went wrong in their life and what they want to change for the next year. In New York, on Time Square, there’s a box where you can drop a letter mentioning the thing you want to get rid off.

For some people, the wish is to get rid of their loneliness. But some also choose to get rid off a relationship.

We can get rid off a friend or a lover because he/she’s not treating us well. After all, true friendship and love should make you happy. If you feel miserable all of the time, it’s not worth pursuing the relationship.

The lover who’s never there, bring you down when you tell him/her about the difficult day you had, receive all your attentions but never reciprocate, get violent with you, criticize all of your choices,… isn’t worth your love.

The same goes with your friends.

So, I wish you a happy New Year. And a fresh start.

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The Year Review

1. What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before? A speech in the House of Representatives of my country.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?  I didn’t make any resolutions

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Yes.

4. Did anyone close to you die? Yes

5. What countries did you visit? Switzerland, Great Britain, France, Germany, South Korea, United States

6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013? Peace.

7. What dates from 2013 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? January 11: the day of my hearing at the House of Representatives.

June 2: the day when my little nephew was born.

October 13: when B. asked me to write a book with him.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? My hearing at the House of Representatives.

9. What was your biggest failure? A documentary that never saw the light.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Yes.

11. What was the best thing you bought? shoes.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? The Pope Francis

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? extremists of all kinds.

14. Where did most of your money go? travels.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? My hearing. My book.

16. What song will always remind you of 2013?

You can call me Queen Bee 😉

17. Compared to this time last year, are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter? (c) richer or poorer?

Happier. Neither thinner nor fatter. Richer.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

With my family.

21. Did you fall in love in 2013?

No.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? No.

24. What was the best book you read? The moment, by Douglas Kennedy

25. What was your greatest musical discovery? …

26. What did you want and get? A book with B.

27. What did you want and not get? A nice place to live.

28. What was your favorite film of this year? Frances Ha

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Traveling.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?  Peace

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2013?

There’s improvement.

32. What kept you sane? My friends and family.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? 

34. What political issue stirred you the most? The debt crisis.

35. Who did you miss? some of my friends

36. Who was the best new person you met? C.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013. A sailor without destination cannot hope for a favorable wind.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

n a cold night
There will be no fair fight
There will be no good night
To turn and walk away

To burn me with fire,
Drown me with rain
I’m gonna wake up
Screaming your name

Yes I’m a sinner
Yes I’m a saint
Whatever happens here
Whatever happens here
We remain

 

Have a great 2014!

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Two lovers

We can love two people, but we can’t fall in love with two people at the same time, says Francesco Alberoni in his book “Falling in love”.

That’s why we can fall in love with someone and live with him/her and then fall in love with someone else, without stopping  loving the first person.

Some people can’t cope with this situation, while other are just fine with it. It depends if your first significant other cope with this or not. And if the other lover is OK with this too. But it’s not often the case.

Recently, a friend of mine told me she met a man in a networking event while she was traveling abroad. And she fell in love with him and started to have an affair. Five years ago, she got married to the one she loved. She chased him for years, and eventually got what she hoped from him. Yet, she said she felt an urge when she met the other man at this event.

Since then, she’s been lying to her husband whenever she had to meet the other man. And she told me she felt very guilty. So far, her husband hasn’t noticed anything. And the other one hasn’t asked him to choose between him and her husband yet.

Are you happy? ” I asked to her. And she said yes.  “I love them both. And I don’t want to lose anyone of them” she said.

Yet, she knows her happiness is fragile. Because when her husband will eventually know about her affair, he will feel betrayed. As for the other one, he’s aware she’s married. And seems fine with this.

My friend is just at the beginning of her affair. But over time, in my opinion, I don’t think it’s sustainable.

Some people do manage to keep their affair under wrap for years. But it’s difficult and this implies your official partner is somehow collusive of that.

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