In her book, “the silo effect”, Gillian Tett warns about silo. Living in silo makes you jealous, critic, and fearful of the others who don’t belong to your circle.
In the light of the recent events in my country and in France, it’s important to remind this message.
Today, one of my coworkers joked about what she would say if a terrorist from the organization I don’t want to name, because they don’t deserve it, was coming into our office and threatened to kill all of us. “I slept with a muslim, do you think it would save me?” she said. Her ex and her broke the silo between them, it’s a good thing. They’re not together anymore, but they remained good friends, she says.
Unfortunately, today, it’s easy to remain trapped in your silo. Part of the explanations is the diversity of communities now, thanks to social medias. You can get the illusion to feel comfortable into a certain community, at the risk of cutting the links with those who don’t belong to that circle.
Meeting people from different circles can open your perspectives, and makes you more tolerant.
But when it comes to love, I believe it’s important to respect the other’s culture, without sacrificing your own beliefs. There’s a balance to find. If your significant forces you to change your behavior, it’s not the sign of a healthy relationship.
My parents are a good example. My mother moved in our country 40 years ago, and she has never forgotten about her culture, while my father accepted her as she was. She didn’t try to change my father too.
Does it mean the younger generation are less tolerant? I don’t think so.