celibacy, life, love, men, thoughts, women

The trophy


Many wealthy women have tried to flirt with me after my divorce” said one of my friends, who’s a university professor. “But I refused all of them, because I don’t want to be the intellectual trophy they parade at their galas,… It’s not my cup of tea” he added.

My friend often gives lectures and conferences, and sometimes appears on TV. Usually, after his conferences, there are a lot of women who come and ask him questions. But my friend told me he’s a bit afraid of them.

I can understand him, as I also turned down two wealthy men last year, who were impressed by my intelligence as they said. I met them at a conference where I was one of the speakers. Both of them were much older than me. I felt exactly the same way as my friend with his wealthy suitors. Except I’m not shaken by a divorce like my friend.

My friend was married to a woman who was wealthy, but didn’t match his intelligence. I told him several times they weren’t a good match. His ex-wife is a socialite, whose goal is to appear in the cocktail parties pictures published in people magazines. She often  gunned him down in front of other people.  I told him she was very mean. Of course, she hated me.

“Why don’t you go for a female professor?” I asked him. He didn’t reply.

Nowadays, as men aren’t the sole breadwinner and decision-maker in a couple, most men search for their equal in education, intelligence, achievement,… They don’t look for a woman who just looks good. But it’s the same, and ever more, for women.

I half joked in a previous post about asking my potential dates if they can quote a poem from Baudelaire, some lines from “Economie du Bien commun”, or a theorem from Mandelbrot. Usually, I just ask what is the last book they read. If they can’t answer, I tell them it’s not worth to pursue the conversation. If they answer “just Sci-Fi ” or something like that, I don’t want the conversation to go on either. One of my dates told me he was reading “Le rouge et le noir” by Stendhal. I happily decided to pursue the conversation with him.

Besides,  your circles can dismiss quickly a companion who doesn’t match you in education or status. So, yes, your friends are a precious ally.

Guys who just look for a model as their significant other are either narcissistic, or just another model.

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