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Those who don’t want commitment

Some people don’t want a relationship. Millenials, for example, don’t want to get married, and have a family, because they fear their professional future. My younger cousins, who are 20, never introduced to our family any girlfriend (or boyfriend). When I asked them if they plan to get married some day, they just shrug their shoulders. But they told me they have it difficult with their studies and fear the day when they will have to search for work, as their tiny experience with the professional world has been difficult so far. My young cousins prefer to drown down their sorrow in parties with their group of   friends.

One of my coworkers, who’s 30, can’t stay in any relationship. He’s mean with the women he dates, as some friends and I saw when we bump into him in cafe and restaurants in our city. His Facebook status has often changed from “in a relationship” to “single” in a matter of weeks. When he’s involved in a relationship, he can’t help flirting with our female coworkers, especially the newly hired. “I guess he’s just fearful” says one of my friends, who knows him. I don’t think he would ever change.

Some people, like my coworker, don’t want be in a relationship because they want their freedom to flirt and get laid as much as possible.

But there are people who used to be involved in a marriage or a long-term relationship who don’t want to commit anymore. Diminished after two divorces, one of my friends has stayed single for ten years now. And he says he doesn’t want to live with someone else anymore, nor to get married again. He says he’s just too difficult to live with.

Some people have also difficulties to trust new people in their life. Because they were abused in the past, or because of their background, they fear any commitment.

But sometimes, it’s best to be single, rather than in a relationship.