The 2018 review

So, this year is almost at its end. Like all the years before, it’s my review of the year. Feel free to use the same questions.

1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before? 

Gathering all of my friends for my birthday, who never met each other before.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?  

I don’t make new year’s resolutions. I just change a bit of my habits during the year.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Yes.

4. Did anyone close to you die?  No.

5. What countries did you visit?  Croatia, UK, France, the Netherlands

6. What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018?  a significant other

7. What dates from 2018 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

14 february: For once, I had a good Valentine’s day

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?  Gaining maturity

9. What was your biggest failure? The end of my blog (not this one though). And David.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Yes.

11. What was the best thing you bought? Clothes.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? Cecilia Djunga, a TV presentator, who stands against racists.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? Donald Trump.

14. Where did most of your money go? housing and car.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? Gathering all of my friends. And organizing my birthday.

16. What song will always remind you of 2018?

Thank u, next- Ariana Grande
17. Compared to this time last year, are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter? (c) richer or poorer?

Sadder. A little bit thinner. Richer.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Traveling more.

Seeing more exhibitions.

Going to lectures and the opera.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Spending time to wait for people who don’t give a damn about me.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

With my family.

21. Did you fall in love in 2018?


23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? Yes

24. What was the best book you read?  

La confiance – Charles Pepin

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?  Chvrches

26. What did you want and get?  reconciling with one of my friends

27. What did you want and not get? A meaningful relationship.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?  

Three Billboards

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Drinking champagne!

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?   Luck in love

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2016?

Flowers, flowers, flowers. And black, black, black.

32. What kept you sane? My friends and family.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? 

No inspiration this year.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?  The Brexit

35. Who did you miss? C., but I’ll move on.

36. Who was the best new person you met? Walt

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018. People don’t change, but we can adjust to them

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year

Wasn’t it gonna be fun and wasn’t it gonna be new?
Wasn’t it gonna be different and wasn’t it gonna be true?
Didn’t you say that? Didn’t you say that?
Didn’t you say that? Didn’t you say that?

Weren’t you gonna be sorry and weren’t you gonna be pure?
Weren’t we gonna be honest and weren’t we gonna be more?
Didn’t you say that? Didn’t you say that?
Didn’t you say that? Didn’t you say that?

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The unlikely seducers


In the movie “Wild life”, Jeanette, the lead female character, finds herself in an affair with a much older man than her husband. Her lover isn’t handsome, but he’s rich, and full of promises. The film doesn’t show who made the first move, but it’s understood that he was the one to pursue Jeanette.

It takes two to tango. Jeanette could refuse his advances. But she’s seduced by him. But why does she choose him? In an interview, Carey Mulligan explains Jeanette is angry.  She’s angry because her family has moved 8 times, as her husband can’t find a good job. She’s angry because all of sudden, her husband decides to leave for a dangerous job. She feels her world is collapsing.

In theory,  a seducer should be a handsome man. But it’s not always the case. The word “handsome” doesn’t pop into my mind when I see one of my ex-coworkers, who tried to seduce every female journalist in my newsroom. He didn’t score with everyone, but he managed to seduce two of my female coworkers. The guy has a long list of contacts, who could introduce him to the greatest exhibitions, cocktail parties, concerts… in my country. He’s also very charming with women in general. He can’t help giving compliments to a woman during a simple conversation.

Another one in my newsroom just preys on the young one who are just recruited in my company. Usually, the young recruit doesn’t know anyone in the company yet, and is relieved to have someone to talk to at the coffee machine or at the cafeteria. At least, at the very beginning.

Michel Houellebecq, in “Particules élementaires”, writes men who used to be bullier when they were younger have easier than other men to seduce beautiful women, as they have understood how to seduce them. He doesn’t say if those women felt weak, but in his book, the bullier ends up with a beautiful but fragile orphan woman.

Of course, it helps if the man is handsome. But there are handsome men who are not at ease with women in general. And not that charming. In my newsroom, one of our photographers is a very handsome man. But he’s shy and doesn’t hit on the female workers.  As women don’t like when it’s too easy,  they are numerous in my company who offer him to have a lunch with them.  Sometimes, he just likes to eat on his own, reading his magazine.








Is it possible to fall in love with one of your followers on Instragram? Yes. The most popular example is Ricky Martin, who fell in love with a painter who follows him on Instagram . He followed him back and started to like each other posts. But it can also happen between people who aren’t popular. Recently, one of my friends told me her cousin is currently in a relationship with an actor she met on Instagram. My friend was appalled when she told me that. “They met each other one year ago on that social media. He started to follow her on Instagram and she followed him back. My cousin is very active on that app. She posts a lot of her pictures where she poses as if she was a famous model. But she isn’t one. She never made it on a runway or in a magazine. Yet, she manages to collect followers, because her pictures are very professional. And she travels a lot. It helps her to have something to post. That’s how she managed to catch her significant other ‘s attention ” my friend says.

“But so far, they have only met in real life once, during one month. She traveled to his country to meet him. Because they don’t live in the same country. Since then, they have posted pictures together, and she has gained a lot of new followers because her man is quite known in his country. He plays one important role in a soap opera very popular there” she adds.

In other words, my friend ‘s cousin is currently in a long distance relationship. Instagram was just a way to meet her significant other. My friend isn’t optimistic for her relationship. “My cousin did long studies and earn a high position in her company. I can’t see her quit her life to be with him. And I don’t see him quitting his acting profession to come here and stand next to her” she says. But maybe they will find a solution.

That’s the problem with Instagram. It connects people globally.

Yet, on Tinder, I notices some profiles linked to their Instagram account. I don’t know if this is helpful to have a date. Usually, men post insignificant pictures on Instagram and they are not very active. It’s difficult to stand out, unless you’re an artist.

So, it’s very particular to find your significant other on Instagram.