This week, a TV reporter made a video about her experience with Tinder. During the two months she was registered, she met two men who were very disrespectful with her. One used a model photo he found on google images for his profile. He arrived at their date two hours late, with a bottle of alcohol in his hand. He told her not to be stressed. And proposed to her to go to his place. The other one was very odd at the start, sending her sexual messages on their first contact. She reluctantly met him at a bar. He wanted to go to her place. And said it’s like that with Tinder. At the end of the conversation, he asked her if she wanted to touch her when she goes home. And sends her a pick of his dick.
Unfortunately, there are weirdos on Tinder. But one alarm should ring immediately if you see a photo of a man who looks like a model, if he matches with you. Even if you’re a model yourself, you should be extra careful with the picture. People lie easily on internet. When it seems too good to be true, it’s not true. It’s not a good idea to swipe right on a profile with pictures of his bare chest. Unless you only want to have sex, at your own risk. It’s not a good idea to accept a drink right away after just two exchanges. If he offers you to exchange phone numbers, accept. Because you will have access to his real name, and to his Facebook profile, Linkedin profile, … Especially if he has a public profile on Facebook. What he posts on Facebook is very revealing of his personality. If he jokes on women on his profile, there are chances he will be horrible with you. It’s not a good idea to invite a total stranger to your place, or to meet a total stranger at his place for the first time. I’ve heard countless stories of women who found her date touching himself when they went to his place, or who were just watching porn.
Whitney Wolfe, the co founder of Tinder, and the CEO of Bumble, advises people to put several pictures of themselves (and not mirror selfies, group pictures, picture with a woman). Because it helps to tell who you are. I tend to swipe right men who put several pictures of themselves and a little bio. It’s a sign they’re not looking just for a one night stand.
There are people who are looking for a serious relationship on Tinder. It’s just a way to meet people. Unfortunately, there are impostors, crooks, womanizers, sociopaths on Tinder as well.
Even if it’s Tinder, you should take you time. Time is your friend to know more about a total stranger. I still discover new things about the man I met on Tinder two years ago, and who has become a good friend of mine.