life, love, relationships

Is Tinder going to end?

Esther Perel, a relationship therapist, says Tinder won’t last.

 ‘I’ve yet to find anyone who tells me that dating on any app is fun. Nobody tells me that it’s playful or mischievous – it is utterly uninspired, devoid of imagination, seduction, charge or excitement. It’s just romantic consumerism.

And when people do go on a date, it’s like a job interview’

It may be not that fun, but some people do meet their significant other thanks to Tinder and other dating apps.

When we use Tinder and other dating app, we rely on their algorithm to find people who can meet our needs. Some people use dating app to find a turnover of lovers. Some people use dating app to find their partner.

Like Esther Perel says, when people go on a date, it’s like they attend a job interview. The first date is always awkward because of that. But we don’t look for the same thing during a job interview.  In a job interview, we often put our skills and experiences forward.  Sometimes, we also mention our athletic feat, like our time during a marathon. During a date, we don’t give those details. But it’s true, in both cases, that we want to be liked.

It’s not necessarily a bad thing.

In the end, we always have the choice of taking the chance to pursue a relationship with our date or not.

So, Tinder is just a way to meet people.

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broken heart, life, love, thoughts

To follow again your ex on Instagram

In the social media age, it’s difficult to stay away from your recent breakup. Some people are tempted to stalk their ex after the breakup. It’s not wise and it doesn’t help you to move on, but sometimes, the best medicine to your obsession is the obsession itself.

But some people choose to unfollow their ex on social media, like snapchat, Tik Tok (for the young ones) and of course, the most used social media nowadays: Instagram. That social media is particular, since people only post pictures with sometimes a caption. It’s a little bit different from Facebook, where people can post links to articles, videos, pictures,….

Yet,  for some reasons, we can be tempted to follow again our ex on Instagram, as we can be tempted to re-friend our ex on Facebook after a hiatus. Like on Facebook, the person you choose to unfollow doesn’t get any notification. But he/she get a notification when you follow him/her. If the person has chosen to have a private account on Instagram, the social media will ask him/her if he/she wants to be followed by you. In other words, you remind your ex of your presence. It’s a first step to come back into your ex’s life.

If you want to come back into your ex’s life, it’s not going be easy.  Your ex can choose to block you from social media. If your ex doesn’t reject you, it doesn’t mean your ex want you to come back in his/her life. But in the digital age of social media, people are not that careful with their profile and account. So a new follower, even from the past, it’s not important for some people.Personally, I don’t really care who follow me on Instagram. I don’t post every day.

If you are still friends with your ex, it may be a good reason to follow your ex again on Instagram.

 

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