Recently, one of my coworkers told me she was shocked by what her therapist said to her.”You cannot grow old alone” her therapist told her, because my coworker told her she was happy to be single.
While it’s true that you’re better off alone than in bad company, being single over a long period can be difficult too. But I guess it depends on your personality. Among writers, Louisa May Alcott, the novelist behind “Little women”, was never married. It’s an exception.
Among the people I know, there are also unmarried people who live with their significant other. They have never got married despite a long time together. One of my friends has been with the same man for over 23 years now. They have never got married, even if they have a child together. Another friend of mine isn’t married to his significant other, who is expecting their first child. He’s convinced marriage is a question of tax, as this taxation encourages married couple over those who are not married.
There are some people who are not married and not in a relationship. But they were previously in a relationship that turned sour in the end. One of my friends left her abusive ex and hasn’t found any stable relationship since then. Another one has been in several long-term relationships, over 2 years, but has never settles so far. They are both in a transition period of celibacy.
Some people are also single because they are in a relationship with someone who isn’t available. Either because they are married to another person, or are just not interested in a serious relationship.
My coworker didn’t say if she was just single, or in transition period of celibacy.
There is also a pride about being single nowadays, especially for women. Some celebrities like Emma Watson are proud to be “self-partnered” .
The hashtag #selfpartnered is also gaining popularity on social medias like instagram.
It’s a trend among millenials. I guess when you’re young, you don’t want to ruin all the possibilities you have.
My coworker is also a millenial. Maybe that’s why she was shocked by her therapist.