eHarmony, a dating site, just announced in Lisbon today during Websummit 2018, that thanks to artificial intelligence, it could support people to ask for date after a online conversation. “There are many conversations on our site, but there are few dates in general ” said eHarmony CEO during the conference.
Loveflutter, an british dating app, plans to analyze conversations on their app to find if two people are compatible. It want to send a message to the two chatters to suggest a date “because it reduces the pressure to ask for a date” said Loveflutter CEO.
Sean Rad, Tinder founder, predicts that Siri, the vocal assistant on your iPhone, could serve as an go-between.
But would you follow your phone if Siri or another artificial “intelligence” suggest you to date the person you are messaging?
I’m not very convinced. How can an artificial intelligence judge if you are compatible with your messenger?
I have plenty of experiences on Tinder where I started to chat with a guy who seemed to have some common points with me, only to lose them in the sea of algorithms on Tinder.
There are many reasons why some people just vanish after some conversations on dating sites. The number one is, like my friend said, the coldness of internet. “I don’t feel any spark with any guy I met online” she told me. She prefers to flirt with men in real life, even if it’s very difficult. “Usually, I’m very disappointed by the guy when I met him in real life after a chat with him on a dating app” she said.
The second reason is the many choices dating sites and app offer you. Why bet on only person when there are so plenty fish in the sea? This perspective, to have always someone to find on internet, has done a true damage to relationships, says sociologists like Eva Illouz.
The third reason is just because people can’t forget their ex. Or are just depressed. They prefer to have distance with people they meet, even online.
Besides, an algorithm has flaws. Cathy o’Neil, a mathematician, said in her last book that in the age of algorithms, it should lead to fairness, but the opposite is true and lead to discrimination.
So, would you trust an algorithm? It’s like asking “are you satisfied by your Google Search”? or “the people you may know” on Facebook. Usually, you are never satisfied by your first answer…