Esther Perel, a relationship therapist, says Tinder won’t last.
‘I’ve yet to find anyone who tells me that dating on any app is fun. Nobody tells me that it’s playful or mischievous – it is utterly uninspired, devoid of imagination, seduction, charge or excitement. It’s just romantic consumerism.
And when people do go on a date, it’s like a job interview’
It may be not that fun, but some people do meet their significant other thanks to Tinder and other dating apps.
When we use Tinder and other dating app, we rely on their algorithm to find people who can meet our needs. Some people use dating app to find a turnover of lovers. Some people use dating app to find their partner.
Like Esther Perel says, when people go on a date, it’s like they attend a job interview. The first date is always awkward because of that. But we don’t look for the same thing during a job interview. In a job interview, we often put our skills and experiences forward. Sometimes, we also mention our athletic feat, like our time during a marathon. During a date, we don’t give those details. But it’s true, in both cases, that we want to be liked.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing.
In the end, we always have the choice of taking the chance to pursue a relationship with our date or not.
So, Tinder is just a way to meet people.