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Silly signs

In the movie Chungking Express, the opening scene starts with a voice saying: “We cross every day. We don’t know each other. We will be probably friends someday“. Then, the movie follows with He Qi-Wu, a police officer, who just got dumped on the 1rst of April by his girlfriend. He gives himself one month for her to come back, and buys  each day a tin of pineapple expiring on the 1rst of May, as a reminder. He met in between a woman, and counts the days left before he could fall in love with her.

I like this opening scene. It means for me that destiny has curious ways for showing itself. And that sometimes, destiny sends us signs we’re able to decipher or not. These signs are generally pure coincidences. When those coincidences happen a lot in a short period of time, then, it may be worth taking these into account. But how? One of my friends knew her husband was the one when they were talking about silly topics. She told me that at one moment, she thought about an elephant during the conversation. “We were playing a little game consisting in telling what was going on in our mind, and at one moment, we decided to tell simultaneously to each other the image in our mind. The word elephant came out simultaneously of our mouths. We couldn’t believe it”  she said. They began dating shortly after, and got married three years ago.

This is a good coincidence. But sometimes, those coincidences happen when the course of our life makes it impossible to push things forward. An example? Recently, I had to do probably the weirdest interview of my career, where I had to accompany the CEO I was interviewing to his place where he uses to chill out. We sat down on a bench there to do the interview. When the photographer arrived to take his picture, he just laughed and told me we picked the lovers’ bench in the forest. This is how it is called. I looked at him with horror. This  is a stupid coincidence.  All of my friends laughed about this incident, and told me it was sweet. I don’t think so, it gives me the impression to be an escort girl or something like that.  Important details: he’s of course married. And I’m not available at all.

So, incident/ coincidence like this should never evolve into something else.

Do you believe in signs?

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Frozen in motion

Among the people we will meet throughout our life, there are some who will stay with us on the short run, and some on the long run. True friends and family stay on the long run, acquaintances and lovers stay on the short run.  But what if we decide to change that course of life? Recently, I talked with one of my coworkers, who told me she married her husband while they both knew  from the beginning he won’t be at her side much of the time. His job sends him everywhere and he’s never there. She complains about this all of the time. It’s been five years they are married, and frankly, I’m not sure this union will last if things remain like that. She knew he won’t be available for her, she also knew he was just passing by in her life, but yet, she decided to make everything possible to change destiny. And I wonder if it’s worth it.

When I was 18, I was in love with one of my friends, but we were both at the crossroad of our life, and we weren’t sure if we would stay in the same city where we have grown together. Our path was unclear. And, call it feminin intuition, I knew we would lose each other and take our distance. I feared that moment, and because I was afraid to lose him, I just hold onto him and didn’t want him to leave me. Our relationship was a true catastrophe. I was very hurt at the end of the relationship. And I was mad at myself to think I could have changed the course of our life. We were meant to be separated, I didn’t understand that.

Destiny is a powerful force our desire can never overcome. But yet, we cannot let our life decide instead of us. This is how we can miss our life.

So, do you think we can change the course of our life?