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Behind closed doors

There’s one movie that left a strange footprint in my mind when I saw it for the first time: the unbearable lightness of being.

I didn’t know the script was inspired by the book of the same name written by Milan Kundera and I didn’t hear about the author before either.

In the book, but also in the movie, Sabina, a painter who’s Tomas’ mistress, always wore a hat when she and Tomas met to have sex. That hat had an erotic meaning between them. But when she wore that with one of her other lovers, it lost completely its meaning. And her lover just said to her it was ridiculous and asked her to take that off.

The little games we play with our lover are unique and don’t work with another one. Things can take a certain meaning throughout the time we spend with our lover and create a bond between us. That’s why it makes it so unique. Have you noticed that with each lover you have, you have different codes, behaviors, ignition tricks?

Some people used a lot of sex toys and can include BDSM into their sexual life. Some people don’t need that. I asked around me if people used any trick in the bedroom, and this is what I got:

We just love to undress in front of a mirror, and often look at each other performing the sexual act. But apart from that, nothing else” H., 36, said.

I enjoy the dime light of a candlelight in the bedroom” O., 36, said.

We play our favorite songs”P., 37, said.

From time to time, we use massage oil and scented powder. Sometimes, food like chocolate invite themselves in the bedroom” L., 36, said.

Sometimes, we used sex toys like a vibrating egg or ring if we feel like it. Otherwise, we just go with the flow”M., 34, said.

“It depends on our moods. we can use sex toys, fine lingerie, food,… when we want to” I., 30, said.

So, do you use any trick in the bedroom?


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Wicked games

I was invited last Wednesday to a Sex Toy Party in one of my friends’ house. These upperware parties are getting more and more popular everywhere in Europe (and elsewhere too) as they give the opportunity for women to buy sex toys without going in a sex shop, too embarrassing. These meetings also go hand in hand with much laughs and discoveries. Laughs? I couldn’t resist looking at all the women seating around me to see their reactions. Bottles of alcohol were circulating heavily during the night, so even the timid ones were drawn out.  There was this woman who wanted to try everything, from the vibro to the multiple massage creams and oils. There was this other woman who had obviously drunk too much and shouted all the time the seller showed us a new toy. There was one who kept on asking questions like “If I use a vibro, will I still want my man after?”. Another one really seemed digusted by all this, and just passed quickly every toy to her neighbour when it arrived in her hands.  Another one was making jokes with every toy that passed. And another one kept on commenting on each toy, saying the vibros were too noisy, the creams didn’t smell good and made her sick, the vibrating duck made her itch, … And another one really seemed disappointed by the price of the vibros.

Among the things that marked all of us during this evening, there was this.

If you don’t know what’s this, here’s the answer: anal beads. But unlike Wikipedia says, it’s not for women, according to the demonstrator. Yep, it’s for men, as “men have their G-Spot in their anus”. Suddenly, everyone stopped laughing.

There was also this.

Geisha Balls. The demonstrator told us more and more women used these when they’re doing their shopping.

Then this.

A vibrating egg. The woman who kept on asking questions asked if there was a wireless version of it, and the saleswoman replied that yes, but it tends to get lost inside the body…

Then, there was the lingerie, with the infamous slit panties/thongs. Personally, I prefer going Lindsay/ Britney/Paris style rather than wear these.

At the end of the evening, most of the women present settled for the handcuffs and the vibros. I still wonder if anyone took the anal beads…

So, are you into sex toys, or not?